- Years in practice
- 21
- Credentials
- LMFT
- Licensed in
- California
- Languages
- English
- Focus
- Addictions
- Focus
- Relationship issues
- Focus
- Trauma and abuse
About Jamie
Jamie Lavender is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) based in California. He uses a client-centered approach to help people feel heard, more grounded, and able to speak honestly about what's troubling them. He aims to create a supportive space where people can start to make changes at their own pace.
Jamie has 21 years of clinical experience working with a wide range of concerns. He often helps people dealing with substance use and impulse-related problems using a harm reduction stance.
Background and approach
That means he meets people where they are and works toward practical, sustainable changes that fit their life and goals. His work also addresses relationship and intimacy concerns, grief and loss, trauma and abuse, anxiety and depression, and stresses around parenting and caregiving. He pays attention to how attachment and early family patterns shape current struggles.
He also supports people navigating identity, sexuality, and alternative sexual cultures including BDSM and kink. In sessions Jamie uses methods drawn from attachment-based therapy, client-centered work, cognitive behavioral techniques, dialectical behavior ideas, and emotionally-focused approaches. He focuses on clear, direct conversation and on building skills when they help.
The goal is to reduce things that make life harder and to strengthen what helps. People connect with Jamie by using the platform’s Start Therapy process, filling out a short matching questionnaire, and scheduling based on therapist availability. Sessions are available through video calls, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging.
What Jamie works with
Everything Jamie lists, in the therapist's own terms. Parenting is the reason this directory exists; the rest shows what else Jamie helps people with.
- Addictions
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
- Grief
- Depression
- Stress, Anxiety
- LGBT
- Family conflicts
- Intimacy-related issues
- Eating disorders
- Sleeping disorders
- Parenting issues
- Anger management
- Self esteem
- Career difficulties
- Coping with life changes
- Compassion fatigue
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Divorce and separation
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Impulsivity
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexuality
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches Jamie lists
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Gottman Method
- Imago Relationship Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each therapist names and does not check training records.
How therapeutic approaches translate to online care
Attachment-based work focuses on how early relationships shape current feelings and behaviors; online sessions use conversation and reflective questions to help people notice those patterns and try new ways of relating. Client-centered therapy emphasizes empathy, acceptance, and the client's own goals; in remote sessions this looks like a steady, nonjudgmental presence and collaborative planning. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) links thoughts, feelings, and actions and teaches practical tools; over video or messaging a therapist can help identify unhelpful thinking and practice small, concrete behavior changes.Finding the right approach is part of the process, and the therapist will work together with the client to decide what fits best. That collaborative plan can change over time based on what helps most, balancing skills work, emotional processing, and practical problem solving according to each person's needs and preferences.
Online therapy offers flexibility for people with busy schedules or caregiving responsibilities. Video calls let a therapist read facial cues and have a fuller conversation. Phone sessions can be easier when bandwidth or camera use is limited. Live chat and text-based messaging make it possible to check in between sessions, send short updates, or have a brief coaching-style interaction during a work break. These options help clients fit therapy into real life and keep progress moving forward.
Questions people ask about Jamie
What kinds of concerns does Jamie help with?
He works with addictions, relationship and intimacy issues, trauma and abuse, grief, depression, anxiety, parenting stress, and many related concerns such as body image, caregiver stress, and family of origin issues.
What is Jamie's therapy style like?
Jamie practices in a client-centered, supportive way that emphasizes listening and grounding. He also draws on attachment-based, cognitive behavioral, dialectical behavior, and emotionally-focused methods when those approaches fit the client’s goals.
How long has Jamie been practicing?
He has 21 years of clinical experience working with adults on a range of concerns from substance use and impulse problems to relationship and parenting stress.
Where is Jamie licensed and located?
Jamie is a licensed marriage and family therapist, LMFT, practicing in California.
Which languages are supported for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English.
What session formats are available?
He provides video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to accommodate different needs and schedules.
How does payment and cost work?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability. Sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with Jamie?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to the therapist’s availability.
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