- Years in practice
- 25
- Credentials
- LCSW
- Licensed in
- New York
- Languages
- English, Spanish
- Focus
- Stress, Anxiety
- Focus
- Trauma and abuse
- Focus
- Self esteem
About Toby
Toby Faye Mailman is a licensed clinical social worker with 25 years of experience helping adults facing stress, anxiety, depression, grief, parenting challenges, trauma, and relationship concerns. She speaks English and Spanish and practices from New York. Toby aims to help people find clearer choices and build practical skills they can use each day.
She approaches therapy like a coach, listening first to what a person already knows and can do.
Background and approach
Sessions focus on identifying strengths and testing new ways to handle difficult feelings and situations. Toby often uses practical exercises and regular check-ins to help people make steady progress. Her work draws on attachment-based ideas that look at how relationships shape feelings, client-centered methods that follow the person's needs, and cognitive behavioral techniques that teach specific skills for thought and behavior change.
She also uses dialectical behavior strategies and emotionally-focused ideas when these match a person's goals. Toby has worked with a diverse range of adults since 2001, paying attention to cultural background and how it affects life choices. She helps people cope with caregiver stress, chronic health challenges, substance concerns, first responder issues, and the long-term effects of abuse and loss.
Sessions are offered in several formats including video calls, phone, live chat, and text-based messaging. She recommends weekly or bi-weekly meetings to keep momentum, and asks clients to give notice if they need to reschedule.
What Toby works with
Everything Toby lists, in the therapist's own terms. Parenting is the reason this directory exists; the rest shows what else Toby helps people with.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Trauma and abuse
- Self esteem
- Depression
- Relationship issues
- Grief
- Parenting issues
- Anger management
- Career difficulties
- Coping with life changes
- Compassion fatigue
- Abandonment
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hoarding
- Immigration issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Self-harm
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
Approaches Toby lists
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each therapist names and does not check training records.
Therapeutic approaches and what online sessions look like
Toby often draws on attachment-based ideas and cognitive behavioral techniques in her work. Attachment-based approaches look at how early and current relationships shape emotional responses and can help with relationship strain, parenting challenges, and trust issues. Cognitive behavioral therapy focuses on identifying unhelpful thoughts and testing small behavior changes to reduce anxiety, depression, and stress.Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will talk with the client about goals and try approaches that match their needs and preferences. Decisions about which methods to use are made together and can change as progress is made.
Online therapy offers several practical ways to connect: video calls for a face-to-face feel, phone sessions when video is not needed, live chat for quicker check-ins, and text-based messaging for short updates or ongoing support. These options make it easier to fit sessions into busy days, use less bandwidth when needed, or choose a shorter format for brief check-ins. Licensed professionals can adapt exercises and skill practices to each format so therapy stays focused and usable in everyday life.
Questions people ask about Toby
What concerns does she help with?
Toby helps adults with stress, anxiety, depression, grief, parenting issues, trauma and relationship concerns, among other areas listed in her specialties.
What is her general approach in sessions?
She describes her role as coach-like, listening first and then helping people build skills and test new ways of coping. Work is practical and tailored to what each person needs.
How much experience does she have?
She has practiced with adult clients since 2001, giving her 25 years of clinical experience.
What credentials and location are listed?
She is a licensed clinical social worker, LCSW, licensed in New York and based in New York.
Which languages are supported for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish. International clients are not currently accepted.
What session formats are available?
She works via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to fit different schedules and needs.
How does payment and cost work?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with her?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to the therapist's availability.
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